As cuffing season gets into full swing and we head into a long, cold winter, many people are actively looking for someone to be in a relationship as. Others are unsure about what other actively-looking-singles prioritize when it comes to being in a relationship. Or, for that matter, if people even want to be in a relationship.
“Someone who is active and willing to go out and do things for the sake of doing them…I want to be with someone who isn’t a Debby Downer all the time.”
“I can’t even think about dating someone right now, finals have taken over my life,” said one senior male student. Indeed, with many students stressed about the upcoming finals, there is a sense that dating can wait until the semester concludes. But the thought still lingers; what do people from the opposite gender want in a relationship.
According to a recent Defender survey of students, 45% of responders reported having a one night stand during their time at St. Michael’s. Yet many students interviewed for this article stated that they valued the security of a stable relationship as opposed to a one night stand. “While a one night stand can be fun, there is nothing like seeing the same person every day and knowing that they will be there for you when you need them to.” said one female sophomore.
“I have been in both a friends with benefits situation and a steady relationship during my time at SMC, and I enjoyed having something to go out with a lot more,” said a woman in the senior class.
“I don’t need to have sex with a guy to feel a connection with him…being in a relationship is so much more than that, having sex all the time shouldn’t be a priority.”
“Someone who is active and willing to go out and do things for the sake of doing them…I want to be with someone who isn’t a Debby Downer all the time.” said a male first-year.
Very few people interviewed for this story stated that sex was something they prioritized when looking for a relationship. “While being in bed with someone is nice, I would rather date someone I can interact with and relate to. That’s more rewarding in my opinion,” said one senior male student.
“While a one night stand can be fun, there is nothing like seeing the same person every day and knowing that they will be there for you when you need them to.”
“I don’t need to have sex with a guy to feel a connection with him,’’ said one senior female student. “Being in a relationship is so much more than that, having sex all the time shouldn’t be a priority.”